Did you know that people can actually be allergic to each other? There is no question that pheromones play a part in who is attracted to whom; but that’s not the only part they seem to play. Each person’s unique body chemistry is affected a little bit differently by every other person’s unique body chemistry, and some of those effects can be pretty powerful. When it’s good, it can be really good.
This will be the most personal post in this series, as far as events from my life go. Feel free to skip it, or like it more than all the others; I certainly hope that one person in particular does. You see, I can’t tell my story without making it a love story at some point. I realized this when I had a good look at my own hierarchy of needs, way back then; but there was no story to tell. Then I made an effort to clean up something from my past, and now I have a love story to tell. Settle in, it’s a pretty good one. Continue reading “Why I Love To Write #011 – The Right Partner: A Love Story”→
As you probably know, Dawn and I went to Los Angeles two weeks ago. What you may not know is that the first time we went there together, some serious silliness ensued. I drove down from wherever I was working, to see Great White perform yet again. Dawn flew down from Portland, to meet up with me and see the show together. We hadn’t gotten around to figuring out that we were supposed to be together all of the time yet; in our twenties, we were both fiercely independent people with agendas of our own. We weren’t smart enough yet to realize that we could weave our agendas together to make sure we both got more together than we did apart…but that’s a love story; this is a silly one.
[This is the second part of a journal entry that was originally written between October 30th – November 3rd, 1997 (read Part 1: The Ancient Automobile here). You can read what Today Jay has to say about what Yesterday Jay wrote in the Post Script. Enjoy!]
Yet with the intelligence and awareness there had come another creation: Separation. They saw only with their eyes, felt only with their skin, heard only with their ears. They experienced the world not as part of them, but as a place they were. They experienced time not as a creation, but as a reality, an absolute. Their experience was hugely limited, for they saw themselves as beings in themselves… perhaps a creation of another being, but certainly not a part.
This separation became a great phenomenon in and of itself. Each man and woman’s individual memories and experiences became their only source of wisdom, intelligence, and point of view. Confined within this system, each individual lost sight of the truth of the larger picture, and became unable to, as a speck of sand, see the entire beach. Sometimes other specks of sand, but very rarely the beach. Continue reading “Why All the God Talk? Part 2 of 4: Separation”→
[This journal entry was originally written on October 29th, 1997. As always, you can read what Jay thinks about this subject now in the Post Script.]
Wherever you are, whoever you are, whatever you’ve done, whatever you do; you deserve happiness. Don’t get caught in a bitterness trap, or a fearful cycle, or even a comfortable cycle. Whether it’s “I’ve done this nearly my whole life; I can’t make up for the wrongs I’ve done, I can’t change…” or if it’s “Well, I’ve done well, nobody despises me, plenty of people love me, I’m all right like this…”, you’re falling for the same trap. Whether you’re perfectly comfortable or perfectly miserable, you can find a greater degree of happiness, and all it takes is acknowledging love. Continue reading “I Completely Disagree”→
[This is a snippet of a journal entry that was originally written on October 28th, 1997. As always, you can read what Jay thinks about this subject now in the Post Script – Dawn]
Our first responsibility is to ourselves. Our first concern must be ourselves. We can’t afford to care about anyone else until we learn to care for ourselves. Sound selfish? Not in the least. If you bring a flawed perception of love into a relationship, without having learned the truths of love, it will fail. It may last a lifetime, but it will fail. Continue reading “What Makes A Relationship Successful?”→
[This journal entry was originally written on October 27th, 1997. As always, Jay’s current thoughts on this entry are in the post script. Happy reading! ~ Dawn]
Most of us learn manipulation. Most of us are subject to it. Most of us are shown manipulation as a form of love. All too often manipulation is demonstrated in lieu of love. So to bring love into ourselves, into our lives, into our relationships, we must first discover love. Everyone has their individual definitions. We can only bring True Love into our lives if we stop forsaking its true meaning for what we have been shown. Continue reading “Manipulation, The Bible, and You”→
[This entry was written over a two day period, and is a continuation of Jay’s journal from 1997. As always, you can read what Jay thinks about this subject now in the Post Script. Happy reading! ~ Dawn]
Through interpretation we can find serenity, or peace. Realize that the things you are hurt or upset by only hurt or upset you because you are programmed to react this way, and you will realize how you are denying yourself your own happiness. And Happiness denied, even for an instant, is the most blasphemous thing you can do… whether you are an atheist or a devoted priest. Continue reading “Interpreting Forgiveness”→
This week’s blog marks a change; an ending and a new beginning that really is a continuation. In short, I feel an explanation of sorts is in order. Some time ago, I gave Dawn a stack of journals to extract material from and type up entries for me to write commentaries on that would become my weekly blog. She was delighted to find a notebook that had entries with titles and clear beginnings and endings. She went to work typing them up and putting them in my inbox, I went to work writing commentaries, and the blog was born.
I couldn’t help but notice that an earlier journal had been bypassed, one that had a lot of entries that I am particularly fond of. I had to ask, and the ensuing conversation went something like this: Continue reading “In The Beginning…”→
[This journal entry is from February 25th, 2005. As always, Jay’s current thoughts about this entry are in the post script – Dawn]
Negativity and You
Negativity is not you. It’s just not you. Negativity is always transient; and as Spirit, you are Eternal. Spirit always was, always is and always will be. A moment of negativity, even if that moment lasts a lifetime, is going to pass. Negative crap uses its energy up, but Spirit is energy. Negativity has energy and power, as much as we decide to give it; but Spirit doesn’t just have energy, it is energy.
You can spend all day, all week , all month on eradicating a negative from your life. It may seem overwhelming, it may be tough; but you will succeed if you are relentless. You could spend a lifetime (or many lifetimes) trying to be rid of Spirit, and you will be no closer to your goal when you finally give up than you were when you started. Continue reading “Negativity and You”→