There are a lot of people out there that seem to think that they are selfless, or that many of their actions are. That kind of thinking can be as harmful as it is delusional, and it’s important to realize that most productive and intelligent people have a healthy view of their own selfish nature. It’s also important to realize that it isn’t just muddled thinking that leads to selfish people viewing themselves as selfless; this country has always been a little shaky on the definitions of those words. It’s no wonder that so many Americans are confused as to what these words mean, when they get used improperly so often.
Most dictionaries tell us that selfish people act in their own best interest, with little or no thought given to the consequences of those actions. I was a little shocked when I first read something like that, since one part of the sentence is totally contradictory to the other. Anyone who has ever deliberately endeavored to act in their own best interest knows that consequences always have to be considered. If you don’t consider the consequences of your actions, you aren’t acting in your own best interest; the two are, quite obviously, inextricably connected. Continue reading “Thoughts That Hurt To Think #009 – Everyone is Selfish!”
What It Means To Me… Selfish, Part 2: Selfless
[Please see lasts weeks blog “What It Means To Me… Selfish, Part1: Selfish” for the original post and commentary on part 1 – Dawn]
Let’s look at the other side of this coin, and how “selfless” creates just as much confusion as “selfish” does, if not more. Again, everyone would wrap a different net of words around this concept if asked to do so, so let’s go to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary app on my iPhone to see what they have to say on it. (Is it arrogant of me to assume that it will be as confusing as “selfish”?)
Continue reading “What It Means To Me… Selfish, Part 2: Selfless”
“What It Means To Me… Selfish”
I spent my whole childhood hearing the people in charge tell me not to be selfish. It turned out, however, that I couldn’t buy a car, rent an apartment or put food on the table with selflessness when my childhood was over and such things became up to me. It seemed there was a line that needed to be drawn.
Living a completely selfless life from the cradle to the grave would turn out one fundamentally useless individual. To learn a new skill we must possess a desire to learn a new skill, and bettering yourself is surely something you do for yourself. If you better yourself in order to better serve others, being of service to others is your selfish desire. You want it. That’s selfish. It’s a healthy kind of selfish, but it’s still selfish. Continue reading “What It Means To Me… Selfish, Part 1: Selfish”