If your life has always been and still is ideal in every way, you have no need for self-help books. You get to sit around and smile all day, or do whatever you want, because you were born a master of life. Since you already have everything anyone could ever possibly want, what more is there to strive for? If you are truly one of these people, then good for you. You have no reason to read this…or anything, really; so I’ll go ahead and address everyone else. Continue reading “Thoughts That Hurt to Think #019 – If I can do it, so can you! (Theoretically)”
There are a lot of people out there that seem to think that they are selfless, or that many of their actions are. That kind of thinking can be as harmful as it is delusional, and it’s important to realize that most productive and intelligent people have a healthy view of their own selfish nature. It’s also important to realize that it isn’t just muddled thinking that leads to selfish people viewing themselves as selfless; this country has always been a little shaky on the definitions of those words. It’s no wonder that so many Americans are confused as to what these words mean, when they get used improperly so often.
Most dictionaries tell us that selfish people act in their own best interest, with little or no thought given to the consequences of those actions. I was a little shocked when I first read something like that, since one part of the sentence is totally contradictory to the other. Anyone who has ever deliberately endeavored to act in their own best interest knows that consequences always have to be considered. If you don’t consider the consequences of your actions, you aren’t acting in your own best interest; the two are, quite obviously, inextricably connected. Continue reading “Thoughts That Hurt To Think #009 – Everyone is Selfish!”
There’s that old saying, that says it takes a village to raise a child. There’s another assumption about villages, that each of them has their own idiot. I think we can agree with that, if we concede that each village likely has its own genius as well. The genius is probably a man, which will hopefully delight men; but the idiot is most likely a man as well, so maybe that’s one for the ladies.
I don’t know, and it doesn’t really matter.
What does matter is that very few people live in villages these days. It’s easy to assume that we can modify that old saying, and say it takes a town or a city to raise a child, but what if we’re wrong? What if the people that made up that saying in the first place were not cautioning us against raising our young in a familial bubble, but that they were warning us against the dangers of raising kids in densely populated areas? Continue reading “Thoughts That Hurt To Think #007 – It Takes A Village!”
It’s hard to collect information without also picking up some misinformation. The open mind has to learn to be discerning as part of being open, and the curious individual needs to be on guard against filling their heads with things that sound plausible but are actually untrue. One would think that we could get accurate information from sources like the news and the government and scientists. Since they deal mostly in information, they must hold truth above all else, right?
Don’t laugh at me; I’m not really that naive. Continue reading “Thoughts That Hurt To Think #001 – Studies Show Statistics Are Wrong!”
One of the first things honest things I learned from an adult was CYA. That’s ‘cover your ass’, for those of you fortunate enough to have never encountered people who shirk responsibility and avoid accountability rather than step up. The principle differs for some of us, but it still applies to all of us. Even when we’re making friends, or having a chat with one we’ve already made, we might amend or add something to what we just said after having said it. In conversations, I playfully refer to such pronouncements as ‘disclaimers’.
In books, it’s a bit different. You’ve got to jump right in with a few words about what the rest of these words will be about, to grab the interest of the readers you’re after and push the others away in one carefully worded passage. This blog will be compiled into a book, and the foreword will read a lot like this introduction.
But this is a blog, so we’re calling this post the introduction. Continue reading “Thoughts That Hurt To Think #000 – An Introduction”